My KonMari Experience Part 1: The First Delete Pile

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Part of the KonMari Method: gathering all like things before making decisions about what to kiss goodbye
How did this all begin?  I saw a friend’s post on Facebook less than a week ago.  It was a meme joking about what was left after applying the KonMari method to someone’s household possessions.  I was intrigued as I had never heard of keeping things because they spark joy.  How interesting an idea, as opposed to the usual list of “when did I last use it? Do I need it?  Do I have others similar?  Is this my favourite one?” etc…
Now only days later, I feel uplifted and inspired.  My first batch of deletes is leaving the house today.  I feel like I am on a mission.  I feel like I will love this house more once all the excess is gone.  I have so so much left to do; I’ve really only just begun and I am already proud that I am finally getting rid of all this stuff that I don’t need or use or doesn’t make me happy, and that I don’t want in my future.  It doesn’t fit with how I want to feel when I open X drawer or Y cabinet.  It’s very nearly addictive; whenever I sit down to do something I start thinking about what I need to do next and I want to DO IT NOW.
I had lunch with a friend yesterday and told her about my experience.  I said, “go home and watch Tidying Up episodes on Netflix and start reading Marie Kondo’s (Instagram: @mariekondo) first book, The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up.  It will inspire you.”  This friend has the added challenge of having lost a parent and was instantly worried about sentimental items.  I said, “leave those until last.  Just start with your clothes.”
The First KonMari Method Delete Pile
The First KonMari Method Delete Pile
My parents came over for a visit this morning.  I had my delete pile at the front door, ready to be loaded and taken away.  In the past my parents have been unintentionally contributing to my amassing so much stuff.  When I talked about getting rid of something, they would sometimes give a reply like this:
“Why don’t you keep it?  You might need it someday.”
“Wasn’t that a gift from X?  Are you sure you want to get rid of it?”
“You have space for it, why don’t you just keep it?”
“You have all that room in the basement, just tuck it down there in case you need it.”
“Why don’t you keep that as a souvenir?”
So before my parents arrived I practiced what I needed to say to them as soon as they got in the door, before they trampled on my delicate purging psyche.  It went something like this: “I am in a delicate place right now as I strive to thin out my material existence.  It is critical that you do not question things I am deleting or cause me to feel any guilt for doing so.  I do not want to explain any decisions to you; I am on a good roll right now and this will impact my ability to keep going.  Clearing stuff out is important to me because I have been carrying a lot of excess and it is making me feel stressed and anxious.”  They took it very well and even told me they were proud of me.  I have awesome parents 🙂

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